A Letter To The Wounded Child Who You May Have Been

This is a letter to that wounded child who you may have been.

I understand that what you are going through now is extremely difficult. You’re only 8 years old, but you’ve learned to hide your feelings skillfully, and you’ve learned to find strength in many different ways.

This is for you, a wounded child with an injured soul. All of this pain is due to a number of unfortunate circumstances that have forced you to experience at such a young age.

Maybe your parent relationship isn’t healthy. Perhaps you have seen their quarrel, their hatred of each other. Maybe they’ll even drag you, an unwilling participant, into the battles of their own marriage.

Maybe they don’t have time for you, or maybe they just have other priorities that are more important to you, like your career or something else.

Because of this, you may be left with your grandparents, and then when you’re rarely with your parents, they won’t spend you the quality time you would need.

The mental wounds born to a wounded child are constantly stinging

Despite all this, no one understands how things around you affect you.

Many people think that children live in an instant and forget things easily, such as painful situations. They claim that as a child you live “in your own world”.

However, it is the case that you know these pains are felt deep within you. While the effects of that pain and injury are not visible right now, sooner or later they will most certainly be visible.

You feel pain, and this pain is produced by a wound that stings and gets worse all the time, because no one will help you heal it. You simply don’t know how you could heal. You do not have the right kind of tools for this. Please be new and inexperienced in this matter called life.

Sometimes you cry. You cry when you’re in your bed and in the dark, and maybe when there’s another painful quarrel between your parents in the background.

You use an adult emotional mask to help you put up with your pain

You’ve experienced a great deal of embarrassment and suffering that the world prefers to ignore, and you’ve taken upon yourself the mask of adult feelings. You don’t cry in public, you don’t organize a scene, and you don’t show your suffering.

You just look sad at what’s going on around you, and submissively you settle for your current situation. You can’t do anything because no one takes you seriously. You are very young, but the situation has robbed you of your youth and forced you out of adult behavior.

No one understands you, and no one sees what you really are. You begin to understand that other people’s perceptions are determined by how you look outward. People are only interested in what is on the surface.

However, your family should know better, and they should understand you. They should know that you are just pretending that everything is OK when there is actually the exact opposite situation inside you.

They should be worried about you, they really should! Why do they let this horrible situation hurt you the way it has hurt? And why haven’t they done anything about it?

Eventually, you begin to suspect that everyone is just holding their wealth in relation to others. They are vigilant for their own benefit as well as floating in their own despair, and at the same time they ignore all the other people around them who experience the same thing.

All experiences, both good and bad, have a purpose

No matter how difficult or unhappy your childhood has been, every aspect of this experience will be to your advantage.

You will mature, and you will learn. Above all, you become a person who takes this suffering and transforms it into something good. This is going to be something that will push you towards your future by giving a positive world of thought.

Thanks to your experience,  you will have endurance. You will understand how great it is to be able to express and clearly identify your feelings. You will learn to manage your emotions effectively, and most importantly, you will learn to forgive.

Fortunately, you will forgive your parents because they refused to do things any better. And besides, you will forgive yourself for the moments when you felt guilty. In fact, you had no reason to feel that way.

Emotional injuries that are born to a person in childhood are the most painful and difficult to heal. However, they will not be the only wounds you will have to treat as time goes on.

Throughout your life, you need to treat wounds and other injuries. These may then open the wound that you thought closed forever a long time ago.

Don’t worry about this. This message is for you, the wounded child you are still: you will become a strong and resilient adult. This adult knows how to turn things around for the best, with a smile. He knows how to make the most of life’s most precious moments.